5 simple steps to self care


I can see you rolling your eyes at another whimsical trend – self-care.

Self-care is so important and it has taken me the best part of 36 years to really know why.

For me self-care is playing a huge part in recovering from an eating disorder; through very simple steps I am realising just how important learning to look after myself is.

I gift you with my favourite 5 simple steps everyone can take to instigate self-care into their daily lives and routines. There is not an awkward yoga stretch in sight…..

Bathe and Buff

A hot bath at the end of a busy day can work wonders. Light a candle, use a favourite bath essence, make a cup of cocoa or choose a favourite glass of wine. This is a time to shut the door, grab a fluffy towel and chill out.

The time spent laying and thinking about your day will help you unwind and relax. I am not a fan of bathing for hours on end, but whenever I take the time to sit back and chill out in a bath, I always feel comforted.

If you’re feeling energetic; give yourself a good buff with a homemade bath scrub. Buffing clears your skin and gets your blood flowing. I use 1 tbsp olive oil or coconut oil, bath salts or salt from your kitchen, add an essence if you have one handy and mix well. That’s it.

Homemade bath scrub: I use 1 tbsp olive oil or coconut oil, 1 tbsp bath salts or rock salt from your kitchen, add an essence if you have any handy and mix well. That’s it.


No really, it does work. Five minutes a day can make a huge difference to your overall positivity. I am an inconsistent meditator, but when I do take the time to meditate, I notice the difference immediately.

My mind feels calmer, my thoughts feel clearer and just five minutes in the morning can set my mood for the day.

I like to meditate as soon as I wake. I repeat my positive mantra’s, I think about a few things I am grateful for and I start my day. 

There is no right or wrong, just sit in a quiet place, close your eyes and think of nothing or everything. Whatever floats your meditation boat.

Get a hair cut

A good haircut can make a world of difference. Even if it’s just a trim. Taking time to look after your appearance will make you feel positive and more confident and ready to face the world.

I cannot always afford to get my haircut as often as I like, so when I do it feels like a treat and I never feel guilty about spending the money. I leave feeling confident and blessed.

I had my haircut for the first time in 6 months recently and I honestly left feeling like a new person. I feel confident, positive and grateful. All of this from one simple haircut.

Get a massage

I know this may seem indulgent to some, but if you ever have any spare cash a massage is the ultimate in self-care. For me a massage once every 3 months is better than none at all. It is a time to switch off, relax and let some of life stresses free.

A massage is good for you in so many ways. It can help increase blood flow, which in turn releases positive endorphins and it is a chance for you to spend quiet time by yourself, which is pretty rare for most of us.

Watch trash TV

A strange one to add to the list – right? For me, there is nothing better than being able to turn my brain off completely and just watch something utterly trashy. 

Throughout my recovery period, I had to rest A LOT and even though I spent time reading, writing and studying I also allowed myself periods of what I realise now was self-care. Trash TV was part of looking after myself – mentally.

No guilt or judgement allowed, we all like to think reality TV programmes and the TV, in general, is a bad thing, but as with food……everything in moderation.


Self-care does not have to be expensive or considered selfish, self-care is all about looking after yourself, forgiving yourself for needing some time on you.

The more you respect and look after yourself, the more you will be able to give back to the people around you. Self-care has to start with you, from there you will radiate its benefits.

I hereby give you permission – Get that hair cut, take a long bath or just sit and join me watching ‘Cake Boss’ for an hour or two.